What Can Counselling Offer?
I see counselling as a deeply personal and relational journey, one where I walk alongside you as we work toward greater safety, understanding, and the will and capacity to change.
Whether you are an individual navigating the grief and uncertainty associated with moving to a new place or a couple trying to repair after infidelity, I hope our work together can offer some combination of the following.
You have a place where you can slow down and feel cared for. Counselling becomes a space where you do not have to keep reacting, managing, or holding everything together. Instead, you can begin to experience a greater sense of safety, peace, and care.
You develop a clearer understanding of what's keeping you stuck. We can explore the behaviors and beliefs contributing to symptoms such as anxiety, isolation, or conflict. Over time, you become more aware of what keeps pulling you back into these symptoms as they arise in real time, which can then help you respond differently.
You begin to experience greater agency in how you live. You clarify what matters to you, strengthen your will to move toward it, and build practical skills—such as regulating difficult emotions, setting healthy boundaries, and practicing self-compassion—that can help you make the changes you want to see in your life.
Individual Counselling
In individual counselling, the focus is you. It’s about caring for the you who is hurting in the midst of challenges that life has brought. It’s about understanding the you who carries a history—past experiences and beliefs about yourself, others, and the world—that continues to shape the way you move through life. And it’s about discovering the you who has values, hopes, dreams, and the will to move toward them.
It’s about caring for, understanding, and becoming you.
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Anxiety and Rumination
Constant overthinking or getting stuck in your head and feeling exhausted by the worry
Rumination making it difficult to focus at work, in relationships, or in other parts of life
Avoiding parts of life because of fear
Depression and Disconnection
Everything feeling gray, heavy, or joyless
Struggling to find motivation to do things you used to enjoy or spend time with people you care about
Harsh self-criticism or disliking who you are
Feeling stuck or unable to imagine things getting better
Panic and Overwhelm
Panic that seems to come out of nowhere
Physical sensations, such as trouble catching your breath, that feel frightening or difficult to control
Worrying about when the next panic episode might happen
Life or Career Transitions
Grieving the life, routines, or people you are leaving behind
Feeling uncertain about what comes next
Doubting whether you made the right decision
Feeling unfulfilled or lacking a sense of meaning in your current work, while also feeling unsure about what different path to take
Relationship Struggles
Repeatedly ending up in relationships that feel unfulfilling or hurtful
Struggling to maintain relationships
Overextending yourself and finding it difficult to set boundaries
Feeling taken advantage of by others
Feeling lonely or isolated despite wanting connection
Social anxiety or difficulty feeling comfortable with others
Grief and Loss
The death of someone you love, someone who mattered deeply to you, or someone with whom you had a complicated relationship
The end of a relationship
The loss of a career or future you had imagined
Grieving your youth, a past stage of life, or the person you once were
I believe the relationship we build with each other is foundational to successful therapy. Taking the risk to trust another person and being met with understanding and care can be healing in its own right, as the experience offers a different story about who you are, what you deserve from others, and what relationships can be. As you gradually feel safe enough to let me see more of you, including the parts that may be difficult to share or accept, we have a better chance of getting to the roots of what is troubling you.
Beyond the relationship itself, I draw from a range of counselling approaches to guide our work. Depending on what brings you to counselling, I may use cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) to help identify underlying beliefs and support behavioral change; I may use acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) to help you notice and step out of automatic but unhelpful ways of responding to stressors and reconnect with what matters to you; I may use emotionally focused therapy (EFT) to help you understand how conflicts often unfold around deeper attachment needs and wounds; I may use dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) to help you build skills for tolerating distress, regulating emotions, and communicating effectively.
If something in the list of concerns above feels familiar, or this way of working resonates with you, I invite you to book a free 20-minute consultation.
Couples & Family Counselling
In couples and family counselling, the relationship itself becomes the focus. Rather than assigning blame or trying to “fix” each person individually, we look closely at what happens between you, particularly in moments of conflict and disconnection. What keeps pulling you apart? What fuels the conflict even when neither person wants it to continue? Often, we find deeper emotions and attachment wounds underneath, along with ways each person has learned to protect themselves that can unintentionally leave the other feeling hurt, threatened, or alone. Together, we can bring these undercurrents into clearer view and build skills for de-escalating conflict, communicating needs, negotiating differences, repairing hurt, and creating connection. Over time, you can begin to shift from seeing one another as the problem toward understanding what each person may be protecting themselves from and what they may be longing for.
Ultimately, the work is about defining together what kind of relationship you want to have and developing the insight, skills, and new ways of relating that can help you create it.
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Recurring Conflict
Arguing over things that seem random, mundane, or insignificant
Small disagreements quickly escalating into bigger fights
Struggling to resolve conflict and hoping that time will make the issue go away
Promises to change not being followed by action, causing the same frustrations to return
Distance and Disconnection
Feeling more like roommates, co-parents, or coworkers than partners
Avoiding one another to prevent conflict or dreading having a deeper conversation
Running out of things to talk about when you are together
Spending less intentional time together or no longer going on dates
Value Differences
Disagreements about money, spending, or saving
Differences in religion, culture, or personal values
Tension involving relationships with in-laws or extended family
Different approaches to parenting, discipline, or childrearing
Struggling to make shared decisions when both perspectives feel important
Trust and Betrayal
Recovering from infidelity or another breach of trust
Feeling constantly on edge, suspicious, or caught in intrusive thoughts and rumination
Feeling responsible for monitoring or safeguarding the relationship
Wanting to rebuild the relationship but wondering whether repair is possible or worth it
Wanting to repair the hurt while feeling frustrated by ongoing questions or felt scrutiny
Passion and Desire
Differences in desire for affection, sex, or closeness
Feeling rejected, unwanted, or disconnected
Struggling to talk openly about sex, intimacy, or desire
Wanting to rekindle closeness, intimacy, or passion
Life Transitions and Changing Roles
Adjusting to becoming parents and renegotiating responsibilities after having children
Navigating a move, career change, illness, caregiving, or another major life transition together
Adjusting to children leaving home and rediscovering your relationship outside of parenting
Blending families after remarriage and navigating new roles and relationships
Family Conflicts
Teenagers wanting greater independence while parents struggle with how much to let go
Certain topics repeatedly turning into arguments between family members
Parents and adult children struggling to find a balance between guidance, trust, and independence
Immigrant parents and second-generation children navigating differences in values, expectations, and ways of life
I draw heavily from emotionally focused therapy (EFT) and the Gottman Method in my relationship-focused work. For couples and families. EFT can help us slow down the conflicts you keep getting caught in and understand what is happening underneath them: what each person is feeling, what negative beliefs about themselves the conflict may be reinforcing, and what deeper attachment wounds are being poked at. From a place where each person can better see the humanity in the other, I can guide you through conversations that create closeness and begin to heal old hurts.
For couples more specifically, we can tailor the work further to what your relationship needs. If you want to strengthen your day-to-day connection, we may draw on Gottman practices such as creating rituals of connection, planning weekly dates, and asking intentional questions that help you keep discovering more about one another even years into a relationship. If intimacy or desire has faded, we can explore the conditions, such as mindfulness and novelty, that can help rekindle passion. If the relationship has been hit by infidelity or betrayal, Gottman’s Trust Revival Method offers a structured blueprint for rebuilding trust, connection, and intimacy.
If something in the list of concerns above feels familiar, or this way of working resonates with you, I invite you to book a free 20-minute consultation.